! If you’re dealing with depression or suicidal thoughts, please seek the help of a professional or even of your family and friends as soon as possible.
I’m back with another article from the “Depression facts” series and this time, seeing that depression and suicide are still on the rise, I’m writing about how you can identify risk factors and signs of suicidal thoughts before it’s too late. Knowing how to detect such signs as early as you can will make the difference between life and death.
You may be here because you’re trying to help someone or maybe you’re just trying to understand your own thoughts and actions. Either way, I have some straight-to-the-point facts that can help you notice early signs of suicidal behavior:
1. Talking often about wanting to die. If somebody mentions death, suicide, or other related subjects, way too often, try to discuss these issues with them. Suicide-related talks are often neglected but they are the first and most common sign of future suicide.
2. Not being afraid. If you see that all of a sudden the person you’re worried about wants to do dangerous things or is not afraid anymore of what he/she was scared to do in the past, it might just be another warning sign. Another warning sign is losing interest in their previous passions and interest.
3. Sharing, liking, or commenting on social media posts related to suicide, death, depression, loneliness, mental disorders, etc. Even occasional posts like these can be a warning sign. People who have committed suicide in the past have often posted such content on their social media accounts before their death. In such cases, suicide can be prevented if you learn to notice these hints.
This whole idealization of what the perfect place to work from is like has gone to the extent of being generalized to a common place: a building where people come and go, buy what they need or like and interact with other people. This seems like the proper place for getting constant inspiration away from your office or even from your own home. It is also the perfect distraction, thus lowering your productivity and slowing you down from completing your tasks. What you hear, see, touch, feel, and smell does not belong to you but can become the subject of your writings or blog rants. The coffee shop has now become the most commonly named place as being an ideal perfect working space for writers in particular.
I did not understand the fuss about writing in a different environment than the one you are used to until today. I used to think I was only able to write in closed, peaceful, and quiet surroundings, but today’s escape from my favorite writing place makes me believe that I will keep doing this from now on. It is here where time flies with a purpose. It is here where ideas can be written without your fingers ever leaving the keyboard. You sometimes lose initial ideas, you get them back, you get distracted, you get lost in your thought process… whatever. And if you don’t know why you began to write a sentence, you look around. You watch the diverse people you’re sharing the same room with aiming to extract their thoughts and put them onto paper. I could spend hours writing what the people next to me are talking about: books, history, time, contracts… another man leaves the shop because they don’t have what he usually buys… I am distracted, I want ice cream. Hours in, you want to change your place. It is the seat that you choose when you begin to write that will influence the manner in which you write and what you write about. If I had chosen to face the windows instead of the people, you would have been reading a description of the cars and the weather outside. Now, I choose to keep this article short. I choose to let both young and old people tell their own stories wherever and whenever they want to. I could write pages on made up life stories for everyone I see, but I won’t. I’ll stick to listening to the chill music and to pressing the keys while today’s unknown authors share their last talk before they leave. I like being young. I have never finished an article as fast as I did now.
As I’m writing at this very moment from a coffee shop for the first time I find this place to be the perfect environment for encountering new people, new stories, interesting facts, and even local authors I’ve met before outside of this realm. Another proof that the world is surely small. I guess this is where stories go to meet. No internet, just a laptop with WordPad on it and you’ll be able to finish a piece of writing in a totally different way than you had at first imagined its ending. I used to hate coffee shops. I will come back.
This ebook is for any romance or free verse poetry lover who is looking to find his/her own experience in someone else’s poetry. Also, if you like Japanese poetry, I encourage you to take a look at the second part of the ebook, and maybe try writing haiku poems yourself.
We live in a society in which our problems are most commonly triggered by the people we surround ourselves with. As we cannot control the way in which those around us act or talk to us, it is your own duty to handle depression quickly and efficiently. The importance of knowing how to deal with depression by yourself is greater than you would imagine. This is because although depression often has external causes, getting rid of it depends on your own decisions, actions, and thoughts. Here are some useful tips that will make you forget about your depression in just a few hours:
1. Start doing something new and exciting. Do you find yourself doing nothing all day? If yes, it is because of this reason that your mood won’t change, and thus you won’t be able to place yourself on your way to recovery anytime soon. Write down your daily tasks and goals, and do your best to accomplish them. Only thinking about what you would like to do with your day is not enough. You need to take action and to prioritize your daily activities and duties in such a way that all of them will be enjoyable. Stay present in the moment, and use your actions and interactions to benefit your own present and future development.
2. Help someone! Believe it or not, giving a helping hand can also assist you with your overall mental and emotional health. It is that good deed you did one morning and that grateful thank you someone gave you that will keep you smiling all day and forever. Start by helping a friend or your community, but aim for bigger causes on a worldwide level. You’ll find that the people whom you had helped in the past will come to your help in the future. Through volunteering, you could even find your true purpose in life as you get to experience new situations, to meet new people, and to find out what you love to do. As a result, a humanitarian aid proves to be more efficient than any other costly depression treatment.
Despite the increased socialization process that the world is going through, loneliness is starting to affect more and more people from all social classes, regardless of their gender, profession, or origin. From a sociological perspective, aiding the well-being of a single member of the community can help the development of society as a whole. People, as social animals, need a sense of belonging. They want to be accepted as members of society, and they want to make themselves useful in it as long as their cooperation is wanted. The reality is that, despite all of our developing social and conversational skills, we fail to communicate correctly what we truly want to express. Although communication methods are now more efficient than ever before, people do not manage to get their feelings across accurately. This is often a result of both ego and fear of a possibly negative response. There are many questions no one asks you when you need them even though you desperately want to hear them. Here are some basic remarks or questions every lonely or depressive person wants to hear in times when they have no one to talk to:
I’m here if you need me. (most lonely people need to know that there is someone whom they can depend on)
I can help you.
You are not alone.
Do you want me to help you?
What can I do for you?
Thanks for your help.
It’s not your fault.
How was your day? (lonely people want to know that others care about their whereabouts)
How are you today?
What are you doing?
What are you thinking about?
Do you want to talk? (talking to someone is perhaps the most efficient way of easing someone’s way out of that lonely state)
It was great talking to you.
I’ll call you.
I love you!
Do you want to meet up? (some lonely people rarely get invited anywhere)
Let’s eat together! (many people find eating alone as one of their loneliest times)
Let’s go for a walk! (a short walk does help a lot)
I’ll come with you. (going somewhere with another person is usually seen as a positive experience)
Let’s go for a drive!
Let’s do something crazy! (a need is felt to break the daily routine)
Let’s just relax!
I trust you.
I believe in you.
You are such a great person.
Good night! (as night is one of their loneliest moments, sending a sincere wish such as this one alleviates loneliness)
Have a nice day!
See you soon! (people want to know that the person they are meeting or talking to will be there in their future)
Let’s meet again!
I’ll be here for you.
You matter to me.
Everything is fine!
Don’t worry! (loneliness gives people time to worry more)
No. It all starts with yourself. It is a common misconception to believe that your success both personally and professionally depends on another person. In reality, you are the only one who can control your destiny. It is all about your actions, and it’s your positive mentality that can help you gain what you had always eagerly longed for.
Don’t let others stand in your way when you are trying to reach your goals! Usually, the main cause of our frustrations is the society in which we inevitably live. We tend to unwillingly surround ourselves with the wrong kinds of people without thinking about the future consequences this may have on our personal development. If you start thinking that your friendship or your collaboration with someone is starting to affect your life in a negative way, it is a probable sign that you should distance yourself from that person as soon as possible. Also, if you believe that your interaction with someone who has a disregarding attitude toward you is starting to harm you on an emotional level, you are advised to cut off contact in all ways if the issue cannot be resolved at all. Nonetheless, be thankful! If it weren’t for them, you wouldn’t be where (and who) you are today. It is from these kinds of interpersonal relationships that we learn our most valuable existential lessons. Only then will we be able to distinguish between who is right and who is wrong for us. In this manner, you also learn about the importance of treasuring your own self as an independent individual more than anything else.
I’ve identified some of the triggers and ways of treating depression effectively over the course of a person’s struggle with it.
Depression is not a result of boredom. It is not a choice. It is not made up. It’s real. It is mostly the effect of a lack of accomplishment, compassion, and support. Some of the many causes which trigger this illness are related to family, friends, lack of love, loneliness, stressful situations, changes in life, financial difficulties, work problems or unemployment, health issues, or any kind of insecurities. Like any other mental illness, it can also have hereditary links. It is not your fault. Most depression factors are external, and the fact is you can’t control them on your own. Do not hesitate to think about what caused your own depression.
Research it. Trying to not think about it will not work. You have to admit you suffer from it. You have to be aware of the causes of your depression and of the ways in which it can be treated.