Depression facts: can you identify suicide warning signs?

! If you’re dealing with depression or suicidal thoughts, please seek the help of a professional or even of your family and friends as soon as possible.

Hi guys,

I’m back with another article from the “Depression facts” series and this time, seeing that depression and suicide are still on the rise, I’m writing about how you can identify risk factors and signs of suicidal thoughts before it’s too late. Knowing how to detect such signs as early as you can will make the difference between life and death.

You may be here because you’re trying to help someone or maybe you’re just trying to understand your own thoughts and actions. Either way, I have some straight-to-the-point facts that can help you notice early signs of suicidal behavior:

1. Talking often about wanting to die. If somebody mentions death, suicide, or other related subjects, way too often, try to discuss these issues with them. Suicide-related talks are often neglected but they are the first and most common sign of future suicide.

2. Not being afraid. If you see that all of a sudden the person you’re worried about wants to do dangerous things or is not afraid anymore of what he/she was scared to do in the past, it might just be another warning sign. Another warning sign is losing interest in their previous passions and interest.

3. Sharing, liking, or commenting on social media posts related to suicide, death, depression, loneliness, mental disorders, etc. Even occasional posts like these can be a warning sign. People who have committed suicide in the past have often posted such content on their social media accounts before their death. In such cases, suicide can be prevented if you learn to notice these hints.

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Writing From a Coffee Shop – Alexandra M. Coţe

writing from a coffee shop

This whole idealization of what the perfect place to work from is like has gone to the extent of being generalized to a common place: a building where people come and go, buy what they need or like and interact with other people. This seems like the proper place for getting constant inspiration away from your office or even from your own home. It is also the perfect distraction, thus lowering your productivity and slowing you down from completing your tasks. What you hear, see, touch, feel, and smell does not belong to you but can become the subject of your writings or blog rants. The coffee shop has now become the most commonly named place as being an ideal perfect working space for writers in particular.

I did not understand the fuss about writing in a different environment than the one you are used to until today. I used to think I was only able to write in closed, peaceful, and quiet surroundings, but today’s escape from my favorite writing place makes me believe that I will keep doing this from now on. It is here where time flies with a purpose. It is here where ideas can be written without your fingers ever leaving the keyboard. You sometimes lose initial ideas, you get them back, you get distracted, you get lost in your thought process… whatever. And if you don’t know why you began to write a sentence, you look around. You watch the diverse people you’re sharing the same room with aiming to extract their thoughts and put them onto paper. I could spend hours writing what the people next to me are talking about: books, history, time, contracts… another man leaves the shop because they don’t have what he usually buys… I am distracted, I want ice cream. Hours in, you want to change your place. It is the seat that you choose when you begin to write that will influence the manner in which you write and what you write about. If I had chosen to face the windows instead of the people, you would have been reading a description of the cars and the weather outside. Now, I choose to keep this article short. I choose to let both young and old people tell their own stories wherever and whenever they want to. I could write pages on made up life stories for everyone I see, but I won’t. I’ll stick to listening to the chill music and to pressing the keys while today’s unknown authors share their last talk before they leave. I like being young. I have never finished an article as fast as I did now.

As I’m writing at this very moment from a coffee shop for the first time I find this place to be the perfect environment for encountering new people, new stories, interesting facts, and even local authors I’ve met before outside of this realm. Another proof that the world is surely small. I guess this is where stories go to meet. No internet, just a laptop with WordPad on it and you’ll be able to finish a piece of writing in a totally different way than you had at first imagined its ending. I used to hate coffee shops. I will come back.


Throwback: Campus Photo Journal

April 2016, one year ago, Oradea

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Free Poetry Ebook – “One Hundred and More”

This ebook is for any romance or free verse poetry lover who is looking to find his/her own experience in someone else’s poetry. Also, if you like Japanese poetry, I encourage you to take a look at the second part of the ebook, and maybe try writing haiku poems yourself.

You cand download the poetry collection ebook here: one-hundred-and-more-e-book or you can view it on Scribd. No email required.

I hope you’ll enjoy it!

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5 Useful Tips to Kill Depression Now

We live in a society in which our problems are most commonly triggered by the people we surround ourselves with. As we cannot control the way in which those around us act or talk to us, it is your own duty to handle depression quickly and efficiently. The importance of knowing how to deal with depression by yourself is greater than you would imagine. This is because although depression often has external causes, getting rid of it depends on your own decisions, actions, and thoughts. Here are some useful tips that will make you forget about your depression in just a few hours:

1. Start doing something new and exciting. Do you find yourself doing nothing all day? If yes, it is because of this reason that your mood won’t change, and thus you won’t be able to place yourself on your way to recovery anytime soon. Write down your daily tasks and goals, and do your best to accomplish them. Only thinking about what you would like to do with your day is not enough. You need to take action and to prioritize your daily activities and duties in such a way that all of them will be enjoyable. Stay present in the moment, and use your actions and interactions to benefit your own present and future development.

2. Help someone! Believe it or not, giving a helping hand can also assist you with your overall mental and emotional health. It is that good deed you did one morning and that grateful thank you someone gave you that will keep you smiling all day and forever. Start by helping a friend or your community, but aim for bigger causes on a worldwide level. You’ll find that the people whom you had helped in the past will come to your help in the future. Through volunteering, you could even find your true purpose in life as you get to experience new situations, to meet new people, and to find out what you love to do. As a result, a humanitarian aid proves to be more efficient than any other costly depression treatment.

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How to stay happy- a short guide for beginners

Looking for happiness? For some great tips on how to live a happy and joyful life, click the photo or link below to read an interactive post.

How to stay happy

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Depression facts: little things every lonely person secretly wants to hear

Despite the increased socialization process that the world is going through, loneliness is starting to affect more and more people from all social classes, regardless of their gender, profession, or origin. From a sociological perspective, aiding the well-being of a single member of the community can help the development of society as a whole. People, as social animals, need a sense of belonging. They want to be accepted as members of society, and they want to make themselves useful in it as long as their cooperation is wanted. The reality is that, despite all of our developing social and conversational skills, we fail to communicate correctly what we truly want to express. Although communication methods are now more efficient than ever before, people do not manage to get their feelings across accurately. This is often a result of both ego and fear of a possibly negative response. There are many questions no one asks you when you need them even though you desperately want to hear them. Here are some basic remarks or questions every lonely or depressive person wants to hear in times when they have no one to talk to:

  • I’m here if you need me. (most lonely people need to know that there is someone whom they can depend on)
  • I can help you.
  • You are not alone.
  • Do you want me to help you?
  • What can I do for you?
  • Thanks for your help.
  • It’s not your fault.
  • How was your day? (lonely people want to know that others care about their whereabouts)
  • How are you today?
  • What are you doing?
  • What are you thinking about?
  • Do you want to talk? (talking to someone is perhaps the most efficient way of easing someone’s way out of that lonely state)
  • It was great talking to you.
  • I’ll call you.
  • I love you!
  • Do you want to meet up? (some lonely people rarely get invited anywhere)
  • Let’s eat together! (many people find eating alone as one of their loneliest times)
  • Let’s go for a walk! (a short walk does help a lot)
  • I’ll come with you. (going somewhere with another person is usually seen as a positive experience)
  • Let’s go for a drive!
  • Let’s do something crazy! (a need is felt to break the daily routine)
  • Let’s just relax!
  • I trust you.
  • I believe in you.
  • You are such a great person.
  • Good night! (as night is one of their loneliest moments, sending a sincere wish such as this one alleviates loneliness)
  • Have a nice day!
  • See you soon! (people want to know that the person they are meeting or talking to will be there in their future)
  • Let’s meet again!
  • I’ll be here for you.
  • You matter to me.
  • Everything is fine!
  • It’s alright!
  • Don’t worry! (loneliness gives people time to worry more)

What can you DO?

  • All of the above. (memorize them if you have to)
  • Listen to everything they say, and remember it later. Hearing that somebody cared enough to remember even those small details of a conversation can be a great confidence booster.
  • Invite them somewhere. Take them outside of their usual environment.
  • Go on walks with them.
  • Make eye contact.
  • Hug and hold hands once in a while. It’s reassuring. Make sure that you are not one of those people who find it embarrassing to hold hands in public.
  • Give them a phone call, or contact them whenever you can. This assures them that somebody cares about them despite the fact that they are not next to them physically.
  • Talk about the good past memories. Try to avoid conversations about any negative events or feelings.
  • Offer as much moral support as you can.
  • Don’t criticize them.
  • Give a helping hand. Become useful to them.
  • Just be there! Your simple presence in someone’s life is of great help. (!) Be careful with those who tend to push people away despite actually wanting their presence. Sometimes, although they refuse your help, it’s better to stay with them and show them that you do truly care. If someone tells you that they do not want to talk, it does not necessarily mean that you have to stop talking to them. Despite seeming like a useless monologue, they will listen (or read) and appreciate your persistence.
  • Be genuinely caring! Show how you care.
  • Be bold and daring!
  • Compliment.
  • Smile and crack a joke. 🙂

Check some of these websites if you need help in coping with loneliness: 1 2 3 4

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Depression facts: do you really need someone else to make you happy?

No. It all starts with yourself. It is a common misconception to believe that your success both personally and professionally depends on another person. In reality, you are the only one who can control your destiny. It is all about your actions, and it’s your positive mentality that can help you gain what you had always eagerly longed for.

Don’t let others stand in your way when you are trying to reach your goals! Usually, the main cause of our frustrations is the society in which we inevitably live. We tend to unwillingly surround ourselves with the wrong kinds of people without thinking about the future consequences this may have on our personal development. If you start thinking that your friendship or your collaboration with someone is starting to affect your life in a negative way, it is a probable sign that you should distance yourself from that person as soon as possible. Also, if you believe that your interaction with someone who has a disregarding attitude toward you is starting to harm you on an emotional level, you are advised to cut off contact in all ways if the issue cannot be resolved at all. Nonetheless, be thankful! If it weren’t for them, you wouldn’t be where (and who) you are today. It is from these kinds of interpersonal relationships that we learn our most valuable existential lessons. Only then will we be able to distinguish between who is right and who is wrong for us. In this manner, you also learn about the importance of treasuring your own self as an independent individual more than anything else.

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Depression facts: how to help someone who is suffering from depression

I’ve identified some of the triggers and ways of treating depression effectively over the course of a person’s struggle with it.

Depression is not a result of boredom. It is not a choice. It is not made up. It’s real. It is mostly the effect of a lack of accomplishment, compassion, and support. Some of the many causes which trigger this illness are related to family, friends, lack of love, loneliness, stressful situations, changes in life, financial difficulties, work problems or unemployment, health issues, or any kind of insecurities. Like any other mental illness, it can also have hereditary links. It is not your fault. Most depression factors are external, and the fact is you can’t control them on your own. Do not hesitate to think about what caused your own depression.

Research it. Trying to not think about it will not work. You have to admit you suffer from it. You have to be aware of the causes of your depression and of the ways in which it can be treated.

Pills don’t work. Medicine and supplements don’t cure depression. They can merely help. The only way of killing depression for good is identifying its cause or causes and fixing or removing them. NEVER take medication without a doctor’s prescription. Start by trying out natural treatments. See: Natural Depression Treatments.

As cliché as it sounds, talk to people about it. You’ll be surprised by the amount of decent, helpful, or supportive responses you’ll get. Most people will not judge. Nevertheless, this is a result of the fact that they do not really care about your problem, but the mere fact that you are trying to discuss it with someone else is a step toward getting better. Don’t hesitate to use the word depression. You may find someone who can actually help you.

Depression gets worse in time. Time does not cure it. From the early stages during which you don’t even consider having this illness, depression progresses toward affecting your brain’s health. Learn to understand  that you may have to live with for the rest of your life, but don’t let it consume you.

See a doctor if it becomes unbearable. It is preferable that you choose your doctor based on the reviews and ratings of other patients. See more than just one doctor. This is essential because psychiatrists can prescribe different types of medication, and you have to find out what actually works for you IF medication can aid you. If you’re in an advanced stage, you should see other types of doctors as well to check on your general health as depression’s effects can progress from your brain to other parts of your body. By doing this you can also make sure that what you suffer from is depression and not another type of illness. If going to the doctor’s office seems extreme to you, seek a psychologist’s counselling.

Use modern technology. These days there are many apps for e-therapy that can help you. See: The Best Depression Apps or Apps To Fight Depression. Also, look for your country’s depression help lines, or for websites, forums, Facebook groups, and chats rooms. You can always stick to the traditional self-help books or therapy and meditation sessions.

Make depression productive. Occupy your time with something else and new. NEVER stop doing what you loved to do before. Even if you don’t feel like doing that, try it. Encourage those who suffer to do not only what they did in the past, but also to experience new things. Use it to find a new hobby or to make new friends. Stop doing nothing and get out of your bed! Go out of your way once in a while. Be daring! Do things alone if you have to. Don’t be afraid to go out, but be aware of your surroundings. Many of those who go through depression start acting carelessly and stop caring about the safety of their own self. Exercising and sports activities are said to be some of the most effective ways of spending your time, but I also recommend the following: walking in nature, travelling, socialising, reading, dancing, singing, writing, painting, gardening, fishing, and so on. The idea is to change the surroundings where your depression first occurred with different ones.

Never consider yourself to be different. Never compare yourself to the others. What we see from the outside is not what someone else’s life is like in reality. Everyone has his/her struggles, but most people avoid revealing them in public. You can lead a normal eventful life even if you do suffer from depression. Don’t let others discourage or insult you. Stop paying attention to what the others say.

You are not alone. This is a common illness, but most people don’t talk about it so you are not aware of its commonness. It can affect anyone: men or women, the poor or the rich, the young or the elderly, etc. We are all humans, and depression can strike anyone, anytime, anywhere.

Your family should be supportive, or else you’re on your own. Usually, the reality is that you can’t solve this problem on your own. It is desirable that you surround yourself only with those people who can help you during this journey. However, you will most likely not be able to distance yourself from all of the negative external factors as we can’t live outside of the society in which we have to interact in order to survive. Humans are made to be sociable. Open your eyes to look for the right people and never refuse anyone’s help. Someone else’s support, encouragement, assistance, and tolerance is sometimes all you need through your battle. Stay away from anyone who can’t help you.

Your experience with depression is not the same as someone else’s. Telling someone that you’ve experienced the same thing, or worse, that you are now cured, does not help at all as no one can share the exact same experience as you. There are many different types of depression. See: Types of Depression. People who have suffered from this mental illness in the past shouldn’t try to become therapists, but rather supporters.

You are stronger for having lived with depression so far. You are not weaker but it’s okay to feel like that. Never stop being strong and fighting for your recovery. Be brave!

Do all of the above! It is necessary that you try all methods. Know that everyone’s depression is cured in a different way. There is no universal recipe for this. Remember that you cannot be cured overnight. Recovery takes time. NEVER give up!

Lastly, stay positive! Depression is curable. It is only a period of your life, and it does not define who you will be from now on. Look at it as a way of experiencing new sides of life. Stay away from the negative thoughts. The key to surviving through depression is setting a positive goal for the future. In this way, you eagerly prepare yourself for your desired life. Appreciate the present! Stop thinking about the past! Be happy! Smile! Eat well! Stay hydrated! Enjoy life! Love and laugh all the time! If you’ve made it this far, you can make it forever! Congratulate yourself!

Note: These are my own personal opinions and suggestions. Always see a specialist before making any decision.

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